Sometimes, while I keep up with the day-to-day activism of various women and the underlying message of their personal role in the overall solidarity puzzle, I find myself curious.
My curiosity stems from questioning whether certain sects of feminism, sects that are overwhelmingly under scrutiny by radical feminism, might have actually started out as good inter-movements towards women's liberation.
Take sex-positivity for instance. I wonder if sex-positivity actually started out as a way for women to discover their bodies sexually. I wonder if sex-positivity was rooted in body acceptance and adoration. Sex-positivity is supposed to be about women claiming agency and autonomy over their total bodies - and this includes their own sexuality.
However, men polluted this. Which comes as no surprise. The sex-positivity movement became hijacked by men who made it all about capitalizing on pornography, exploitation, and catering to their orgasms, under the guise of women's "empowerment."
Further, let's examine this whole idea of gender-non conformity. Radical feminists (yes, those women that the QQQ, Queer Qids Qlub enjoys trashing, harassing, stalking, and threatening) actually helped bring gender non-conformity to the Western forefront during the second wave. Pre-patriarchy, women and men didn't have bullshit gender roles. They did what was best for survival. They co-existed within nature. Patriarchy on the other hand, is a highly unnatural state of being. Whatever role they fit had nothing to do with vanity and everything to do with fostering life.
What did the post modern queer theorists do with the helpful idea of abolishing gender? Simple! Don't abolish gender, just identify with it! Certain activities, choices, roles, forms of expression are for men and others are for women. How is it that we are in the year 2013 and still dealing with this garbage?
Sex is reality. Sex-based oppression of females exists. Gender is simply the legitimization of sex-based oppression, indeed, it is a tool of further exacerbating violence against women.
See? These both began as really great concepts. These were the sentiments (and still largely remain the sentiments) behind both of these factions. Men took women's ideas, mindfucked them, appropriated them, repackaged them, and then responded to womens demands with a cum shot to the face.
So, I am wondering, what with sex-positivity and gender theories, whether it really benefits women's liberation to include men at the forefront of any women's movement. Men are more than welcome to consider themselves allies to feminism (not feminists!) and can take a step back and let us women do the work. Trust me, we can handle things perfectly fine without you. If you need something to do, stop trying to discredit meaningful feminist discourse, stand up against misogyny and lesbophobia (this will likely mean UNsubscribing to Queer Theory), and educate your fellow men about how to meet the bare minimum requirements of human decency.
You can't begin to "help" us if you are constantly talking over us, erasing us, and appropriating our movement.
Stop making everything about your hurt feelings and your sad boners.
This is about women. This is a women's movement.
Deal with it!