People who excuse misogyny by saying "oh it's okay for him to say 'bitches' because he identifies as female sometimes" need a long lesson in what misogyny is. If a woman uses derogatory language to refer to herself or other women, she is participating in her own oppression. Likely you would tell her this, right?
So, why is it okay for men to be
derogatory towards women simply because they "identify"
as women? If their far-fetched identity politics held any water and
they are in fact women (they're not) then hypothetically they would be
participating in their own oppression, right? Just like when men try to
appropriate words like "cunt" to describe their penises/sphincters (I'm
looking at you, local dude). It's not okay with me for these men to say
these things (appropriation of womanhood aside). It likewise shouldn't
be okay with queer theorists either. Unless, of course, they are
misogynists or have internalized a great deal of misogyny themselves (if
Call out misogyny - regardless of WHO is saying it or how they supposedly "identify." Misogyny is everyone's problem, and men will often do anything to get away with it.
Please note that I have, on more than one occasion, referred to myself as an "evil lesbian/feminist bitch" solely tongue-in-cheek, dripping with sarcasm, because these are the insults hurled at me when I speak up. This is NOT me trying to "reclaim slurs." This is me demonstrating the kinds of vile things that are said about me.