Thursday, August 28, 2014

A Personal Note on Butch/Femme and my Thoughts

Despite this article last year where I described myself as a "Butch Lesbian" while having no real idea what a "Butch Lesbian" is, and frankly, neither do other self-proclaimed "Butch Lesbians" I'm going to let people know that I don't think I'm really a TRUE "Butch Lesbian."  I'm just a regular run-of-the-mill dyke, or a really ugly and uppity lesbo feminist, depending on who you ask.

For the sake of not naming names, there are two rather prominent "Butch Lesbian" activists who have taken to publicly trashing me (one of them numerous times).  It seems they enjoy brow-beating other women who do not narrowly conform to their ideas of gender, and yes, this is all gender, but for more on that, read the link below.  To those women, sure, I don't fit into your little club, and I don't want to anyways.  I will, however, find your antics juvenile, despite both of your ages, and will not hesitate to call bullshit when I see it.

I'm tired of brow-beating from fellow women on the topic. I'm just a fat dyke, and I express myself however the hell I want.  So for the sake of expressing myself, here is an expression: gender norms are fucking asinine, and those who support gender norms and "othering" of breaking gender norms through endless meaningless labels are hilarious.  That includes the labels of "Butch" and "Femme." When really, both of you are dykes, and both of you are women. Get over yourselves, your egos, and your vanity/gen(d)eral issues!

A friend of mine wrote a great piece on this topic, and my thoughts can also be summed up with it too. Definitely read it, it's worth thinking about. "Hate to Break it to You, but Butch and Femme is Also Gender"


Anonymous said...

I would say I agree. Gender roles (formerly called sex roles) are 100% made up and 100% designed to oppress women. I've never used either of those terms to describe myself because they seemed to be reinforcing stereotypes and I don't feel that I fit into either category that well.

However, mainstream does associate those terms with lesbians so it annoys the hell out of me when straight or bi women, or men start using those terms (or worse, calling themselves dykes.) Ugh.

Yes, I know we lesbians are super cool but if you're not a lesbian then cut the crap.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this post, you really help put into words what I've felt about women such as Bev and Dirt for awhile now.
I've seen your videos, and I think you're a very brave woman. To go through de-transitioning without much support from a lesbian community and getting attacked from these women and other so-called 'radical feminists'. It must have been very hurtful.
If it's alright, I'm interested in having a conversation with you. Is that alright?

Unknown said...

Hello Charlotte,

I just saw your comment and I apologize for not responding sooner. The holiday season has kept me quite busy! But I would certainly love to have a conversation with you. You can find me on Facebook and it's easy to get a hold of me on there. :)